3 secrets To Living The Secret

3 Secrets To Living The Secret
By Mark C. Jones

‘ My philosophy is that not only are you responsible for your life, but doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.’

– Oprah Winfrey

From the moment Oprah did her broadcast (and then second show a week later) about the self-help phenom, The Secret, my office has been buzzing with talk about principles of this Law Of Attraction. In case you haven’t seen the Oprah show or watched The Secret DVD, you can sum up the teaching as: your thoughts become your reality. The emphasis is on using positive thought and positive imagery to direct one’s life in a new more meaningful and fulfilling way.

I believe over-generalizing things in this way can lead to some confusion. So, here are my three secrets for using The Secret to your advantage.

1. The Law of Attraction must live in harmony with the other laws of the universe.

I am convinced the Law of Attraction is real and it works. After years of sitting with people and discussing their problems, I know the opposite way of living does not work. I have seen dramatic changes in my office when people leave the land of negativity. So, I am a whole-hearted supporter of anyone who wishes to practice the Law of Attraction. It does change lives!

I’m not interested in debating whether there is hard science to back this up, we might not be able to prove that there are real ‘energy’ changes happening, as some of the teachers of this idea claim. However, there is proof that the Law Of Attraction works psychologically. In clinical terms, the principles of The Secret are called cognitive behavioral therapy. It is one of the most well researched types of psychotherapy and the one form of counseling that has been proven effective in daily real-world practice. I am not talking about positive thinking, this is the actual restructuring of your cognition — the way you think.

So, at the very least, we can call the Law of Attraction a psychological law that has been proven to work by science. But, it may be too much to say it causes a change to your physical reality. We should remind ourselves that all universal laws work in harmony. The Law of Attraction is not going to cancel out the Law of Gravity, even though I would love to crawl walls like Spider-man.

What will The Secrect enable you to cancel out? The Secret will cancel out are the horrible effects of cognitive distortions that lead to depression, anxiety, and the myriad of other psychological illnesses that plague us. That in turn could lead to healthier bodies and minds. Those small changes can snowball into a cascade of good things, so much so, that we can claim our lives have changed.

2. We must live in the field of possibility all the time.

The great Sufi poet Rumi says, ‘Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.’ This is the field the Law of Attraction pushes us towards while the critics debate. The alternative is to wait and decide – is this right – is it o.k. to use this law in my life? But another great writer, Virginia Woolf can help us there. She says, ‘To let oneself be carried on passively is unthinkable!’ We may not know how this new way of living works, we may not know how it interacts with other laws, but we can not sit and wait when it calls out to be used – and our souls respond in excited anticipation. We must act!

We can be assured what does not work. Giving up responsibility for our happiness is a dead end. Living full of despair and ingratitude weakens us. Visualizing all our worst fears coming true ignites a strange process of self-sabotage.

Attracting the life you long for is more harmonious in every way. As Michael Ignatieff says, ‘One of the greatest feelings in life is the conviction that you have lived the life you wanted to live — with the rough and the smooth, good and the bad — but yours, shaped by your own choices, and not someone else’s.’ This is the life of many successful people in a nutshell. Move towards the field of possibility and it could be yours as well!

3. Try it out – does it work for you?

If you are debating whether using the Law of Attraction really works, stop the debate today. See what is possible. Start using postive thoughts and positive images of the future to attract a new positive life. Pick one goal. Rehearse your visualization process daily. Shift all of your emotion and thought so that you are actually experiencing the goal coming true. Repeat this for 30 days until you have a concrete answer. Maybe this Secret will work for you?.

© 2007 Mark C. Jones, MA, LPC – The Life Calling Coach – Life Coach and Counselor

 Mark C. Jones, MA, LPC, ‘The Life Calling Coach,’ publishes the ‘Art Of The Soul Newsletter’ to his online community at artofthesoul.com.

If you are ready to unlock the secrets to your own life calling, turn your pain into purpose, and renew your passion for life, get your copy of The Life Calling Formula today at http://www.artofthesoul.com

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